Life is a crazy ride, what's new. Through all the ups and downs, hills and valleys, twist and turns we have constants. No matter the chaos happening around us, we can always count on these constants to be there. As I'm growing older I'm really looking within to whom my constants are.
I personally have had a very challenging and confusing year, but heck that is what your twenties are for. In my situation, during the hard times I was leaning on unhealthy habits or toxic people. I was being distant and guarded towards my true friends and family. Why keep turning towards the negative? Comfort? Fearful of change? Quick fix? Scared to be judged?
Whatever the reason may be, in the end I was causing more damage than good. I was only hurting myself which resulted in feeling even lower. Then I would have to scrape up whatever energy and strength I had left to pick myself up. It was madness. This vicious cycle kept repeating, my head was spinning, and my self-worth was decreasing. I kept clinging to the past, instead of opening my heart to my close family and friends (my constants) who were so eager to lend a helping hand if they only knew.
I'm learning to be vulnerable with the right people, who have my best interest at hand. Learning not to be fearful, to show emotion, struggle, and talk about real things that are happening in my life. I'm remembering to take deep breaths, be patient (not my strong suit), not react, and letting the feelings come, so they can pass. I can't control the chaos around me, but I can control how I handle it. So, now I turn to a healthy habit or a positive influence.
I wanted to write this blog because I think we all know deep down what we NEED to do, but sometimes it is easier said than done. I know what's best for me, but sometimes it's hard to do in the moment when you're weighed down.
I'll end with this. One of my clients (he is my inspiration) once told me to think of feelings as a pendulum. Feelings/situations whether good or bad don't last forever. They swing back and forth and always return to center. This visual really helped me because sometimes we are clouded when things "seem" to be only going bad.
So, whatever you're going through... a break up, loss of a loved one, addiction, illness, big life changes, or everyday stress. I hope you find your constants and remember things don't last forever.
Be kind to yourself,
-J
I personally have had a very challenging and confusing year, but heck that is what your twenties are for. In my situation, during the hard times I was leaning on unhealthy habits or toxic people. I was being distant and guarded towards my true friends and family. Why keep turning towards the negative? Comfort? Fearful of change? Quick fix? Scared to be judged?
Whatever the reason may be, in the end I was causing more damage than good. I was only hurting myself which resulted in feeling even lower. Then I would have to scrape up whatever energy and strength I had left to pick myself up. It was madness. This vicious cycle kept repeating, my head was spinning, and my self-worth was decreasing. I kept clinging to the past, instead of opening my heart to my close family and friends (my constants) who were so eager to lend a helping hand if they only knew.
I'm learning to be vulnerable with the right people, who have my best interest at hand. Learning not to be fearful, to show emotion, struggle, and talk about real things that are happening in my life. I'm remembering to take deep breaths, be patient (not my strong suit), not react, and letting the feelings come, so they can pass. I can't control the chaos around me, but I can control how I handle it. So, now I turn to a healthy habit or a positive influence.
I wanted to write this blog because I think we all know deep down what we NEED to do, but sometimes it is easier said than done. I know what's best for me, but sometimes it's hard to do in the moment when you're weighed down.
I'll end with this. One of my clients (he is my inspiration) once told me to think of feelings as a pendulum. Feelings/situations whether good or bad don't last forever. They swing back and forth and always return to center. This visual really helped me because sometimes we are clouded when things "seem" to be only going bad.So, whatever you're going through... a break up, loss of a loved one, addiction, illness, big life changes, or everyday stress. I hope you find your constants and remember things don't last forever.
Be kind to yourself,
-J
